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What we do in our relationship with food, we do in our relationship with life - Part 1

Our relationship with food is a microcosm of how we approach our lives. In my years of practice I've noticed some strong trends that support the idea of how we engage with food is a parallel for other areas of our lives. Let me explain further.

In working with people who struggle with overeating or binging they may set rules for themselves which are often unattainable. Examples are "I'm not going to eat any sugar", "I'm going to have a salad everyday for lunch", "I'm going to exercise for at least an hour, three times a week". If these goals are not in alignment with the emotional/behavioral space where you're currently residing , it's a set up for failure. We need to begin by investigating why we crave such rules. Often times we're feeling out of control with food and we want concrete solutions. Creating these without the support of others often makes them unattainable. There is not enough accountability to stick with the plan. We need to practice interdependence, (we support people, people support us). It's a relationship of giving and receiving and it has a flow to it.

It's also crucial to look at where else in our lives we set hard fast rules. Often if we struggle with overeating with food we also struggle with overconsumption in there facets of our lives such as shopping, social media, drinking beverages, chewing gum, even talking at times. I've noticed that my clients who struggle with overeating tend to be quite verbal. It seems like there is an emptiness inside that they are desperately trying to fill up. We need to find a way to work together to turn that emptiness into spaciousness. There may have been some form of neglect in childhood and the person is seeking connection or fulfillment. Ultimately each person is the captain of their own journey, but it's always good to have an extra set or two of eyes to help us stay on our path. We often don't know why we're doing what we doing, we just do it! Please stay tuned for parts 2 & 3 on restricting ourselves or filling up and emptying ourselves.

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